For anyone who missed my birthday!

I wanted to pen this down cause this is all a part of my growing up process. I turned 32 last week and only a handful of people remembered to wish me. The earlier version of me would have been super upset at this. The new me is nothing but all smiles. 

I learnt something very important this birthday. Your birthday is special only for a very few people. Especially when you decide not to put it up on Facebook or Instagram. I thought about it in detail and reached the conclusion that what good is a "Happy Birthday" from a person I barely spoke to throughout the year going to do for me? My husband and I spent the entire day in a peaceful (and rather large) cottage in Lake District. All I wanted to do the entire day was sit on a bench facing the water. I managed to do a lot of thinking. We saw the sunrise, the sunset and a full moon rise and also managed to spot a quarter of a rainbow in a clear sky, what more could I have asked for.

I now feel that I am also not obligated to wish people on their special days. I think this is truly what growing up is all about. Just like others choose to be indifferent, so can I! It is such a liberating feeling. It is that simple, do not wish anyone out of compulsion and then don't sulk when people decide to do the same. No hard feelings! Just the truth. 

That said, I am so grateful for my loving husband, my doting mom, my amazing best friend and my super supportive colleagues (my office friends who I now consider family) for putting in so much of effort for my special day. For those who sent me really nice and warm wishes without Facebook reminding them of my birthday, for those who were out in the field yet managed to call me from India. And last but in no way the least, my dear God, for keeping me alive to see this day.

We managed to cover Kendal, Keswick, Oxenholme, Lancaster, Carnforth, and Grasmere to name a few, in our holiday week. I spent my birthday week with my husband traveling amongst the kindness of strangers. What a beautiful way to age ❤️❤️❤️.  

So in short, I am okay with not being so important to so many people as long as I am important to a few ❤️❤️. 

Love (mature, patient, kinder, more greys),

Aaliyah 


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